Healing. It is a tricky business. We all want to heal someone. We rush to rescue them from their pain. From our vantage point we see that they are doing something to harm themselves. We may even feel that we know better and wish to snatch them away from that which may hurt them. I see this in my own behavior as a physician and as a metaphysician healer. I am driven to make patients “better”. This is what I am “meant” to do. But is it right?
When we think about healing, administering pills or some sort of remedy comes to mind. Yet in my opinion there is so much more. As healers we are invited to ask the question before we heal someone namely “ Do they want to get healed?” Moon the surface everyone wants to get better, or heal. But for most it is a fantasy. The deeper question that follows is “Are they willing to give up what makes them sick?”
People want to change, but in the same breath are uncomfortably comfortable with the status quo. They may refuse to change the habits that keep them sick. They want the healing without the relearning of habit patterns, transforming their old identity, or their attachments to that which keeps them suffering.
A drowning man is being kept down in the ocean of illusion by the very stone of material attachment. He himself is the cause of the suffering that binds the chains that keeps him from freedom. Why do we do it though? Stay suffering. Because it is it familiarly tolerable. The pain that is known is more bearable than the unknown. Healing is more of a subtraction than an addition to one’s life. More than the loss of the old version of ourselves, it is the fear of who can and may become if we changed that keeps us in the crucible of our own pain.
The hardest thing that any of us can do is to change a habit that keeps us where we are.
Healing is the wellness that allows us to leave behind the version of ourselves that is incapable of seeing our greatest potential, and has always been comfortable with illness, the routine of sickness.
Yet it all begins with ourselves, BEFORE we extend out our hand to heal or help another. For me the question is : Am I ready to let go of who I was, and become who I am truly meant to be?
Et vous?
( and you?)
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I love you
